The other side of every side!!

Life is pretty straightforward but turns out to be much complicated at times. Many of us find it difficult to put its itsy bitsy pieces into proper order, messing up things around us and amusingly ending up at the receiving end! Problems, as they say, always have a solution..may be different for different people! But the most scariest thing to do is to consider life as a problem. We all get our share of joys and sorrows, happiness and sadness, success and failures too. Passing through similar phases in our lives and possibly many of us volunteering to help other people who face similar problems...So where do we all differ from one another???

We all do have a rough idea about how our life is gonna be, how are we going to live it, how everything in our life will be good and prosperous and we do face life with the same spirit throughout. But very few of us are prepared for the worst. "Disaster Management" as they say in the most subdued language. Everyone of us, at some point or the other, have to and will face many situations in our lives where we find everything's so messed up. The question is not how you will face the problems or how are you going to move ahead in your life. The important thing worth pondering upon is how are you going to be prepared for such situations??!! We all fail to accept that life is not only about the good things. It does bring a lot of hardships and miseries alongwith it. The key is to learn smartly and adapt quickly.

Relationships. A new born baby, willingly or unwillingly, comes in this world only to know that he was a part of so many relations even before he was born!! I have always wondered when a new born baby cries - 'maybe he's just having a li'l difficulty in remembering all the faces he's supposed to smile at and the ones he should be crying at!!' That's where the WHOLE process starts. A journey encompassing the various known and unknown people and faces and the complications deepen!!

We know that we all evolve in the journey of life but are never ready to accept changes in the people we love. Change is rather uncompromisable. The facts clear - If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. We start thinking about why things cant be like they used to be. Change may be in various forms and many a times comes alongwith the experiences in our lives. We never know what will happen the very next morning. So with all the hardships, there's this mystery about life which may turn around a person's life in a second. Its just as easy as the fact that the more quickly you analyse and adapt to changes in the outside as well as the inside that you could grow as an individual and be equally successful.

We all share a different comfort level with everyone - parents, teachers, friends, brothers, sisters, relatives, etc. The ones closer to you are more prone to being hurt by the things you do or say. Some friends seldom meet, seldom talk, seldom bother about clearing the misunderstandings not realising that you may never ever get a chance to see that person again in your life. The important part is the same might be the case with all of us - parents, relatives, etc. The solution is to talk it out and never keep things or doubts or questions unanswered in your minds.  Just like I came across a concept in my Info Tech textbook last night "GIGO". Thats "Garbage In Garbage Out"!! Our mind is like a system program, it will work only if it is given proper commands and instructions. The idea is to look inside us and try to understand the root of the deeper unhappiness that lies beneath the burden of unconvincing relationships. We all have a choice to make things better, the choice to be happy and make others happy. And folks, happiness lies in doing the smallest of things that maybe free of cost too.

There are things we can change and then there are those that are out of the direct control of a human being. The uncertainties and the worst experiences particularly failures, misunderstandings,etc give us a second chance to make it right. There is always something to be happy about. Never hold yourself back, let your mind free. Let it discover the unexplored parts of your imagination, the beauty that lies inside you. Its difficult to assess the speed with which things may occur, when a calamity strikes. Its very important to firstly know the important people in your life. Never let them go. It would be true to assume that whatever we do affects people around us, directly or indirectly. And as we grow up the simple things in our lives start becoming more complex. The idea is to keep it simple. Be honest to all your people. Never try to play with the emotions of your loved ones. Spread joy, Laugh heartily, Live truly and always be there in times of need. As i learnt it the harder way, "As you sow, so shall you reap!"

"ज़िन्दगी गुज़र जाती है दोस्तों, पर ये मुकाम फिर नहीं लौट के आते,

कुछ बातें हम समझते नहीं, वरना यूँ कभी छोड़ के ना जाते,

संभालना ही समझदारी नहीं होती, कभी आगे भी बड़ो यारो,

धुआं सा जो है ये मंज़र, खुदा भी इस महफ़िल को फिर से नहीं दोहराते!!"

© Luv, Aslam (: